Have you made a lifebook for your child? You know, the kid-friendly book that tells her whole story in words and pictures—it tells about her birth, her country, what adoption is, information about her birth parents and the reason for leaving them, foster parent information, information about your family and how she joined your family, etc.
Well I hate to admit this, because I am a huge believer in lifebooks, but I still haven't started them for Ro and Ree yet. I know how valuable they are, I know that working on them is a great way to get comfortable with the questions your child is going to ask and the answers you want to give, and I know what a great tool they can be for instigating meaningful conversations and for helping your child feel comfortable with her story. I know all that, have known it for at least a year now, and still I've managed to neglect this important project.
Well this procrastination is now ending. Y'all are my witnesses, I WILL start those lifebooks now, and I WILL finish them in an expedient fashion. No more excuses. And I welcome any help you can offer, whether you've already finished a book, are just working on a lifebook right now, or are thinking of starting one someday. Maybe we can help each other. I've added Lifebooks as a topic to the navigation bar that runs across the top of this page. If you click on that tab, you'll be able to see any posts I've done about lifebooks (starting with this one measly post), and I plan to add information to that section about resources, outlines, tips, and any other things that might be helpful.
I'd also like to get your advice on one to two questions/topics per post (I've got a million questions, but will try to focus).
So today's questions are:
1. What resources have you found to be helpful in working on your lifebook? Web sites, books, newsletters, classes, Yahoo groups, sources for graphics, etc.
2. What format did you use for your lifebook? Did you go with a service that assembled everything for you and provided the outline, graphics, layout, and printing (and if so, who?); or did you do the layout yourself, using your own words, photographs, and home printer; or something else entirely? This might seem like a small thing, but deciding this is one of the first steps for me—I get so dang paralyzed by the small decisions that I end up taking no action at all.
Next topics for discussion, and things that I'm working on right now, will include an outline of content and age-appropriate definitions of adoption, but those are posts for another day. Thanks for your help!