Thursday, February 25, 2010
I'm still dragging my feet on the actual writing part of these lifebooks. Why do I do that? As soon as something is the tiniest bit hard, I find a million "but, what if..." excuses to avoid working on it. Well, I'm rejecting the "what if it sucks, I can't start until I have it exactly right" excuse right now and just going to go with this outline that I've been kicking around. It's not perfect, but it's good enough to start with: 1. Date / Letter to child (this is the story of you...) 2. How families are formed (include kid-friendly definition of adoption) 3. It all started in china / World map 4. Before you were born, you grew in a special place (O'Malley words) / Your birthdate 5. Chinese zodiac (your birth year and other family members’ years) 6. Info about China (also include many of our favorite things come from China) 7. Your city 8. Why you were placed for adoption 9. Pictures of you as a baby and stories of date found 10. Orphanage information / Chinese name information 11. Foster family information 12. Process of adoption (from baby's point of view) 13. Orphanage director took steps to find a forever family / Finding ad 14. Monthly pictures for that first year (we received an album full of pics when we adopted the girls) 15. Adoption paperwork / What we did in the adoption process 16. Referral day 17. Choosing your name (american, chinese, last name) / Getting ready for the trip to China 18. Flying to China (grandparents came too) 19. Meeting the family for the first time (include details interesting to child) 20. Signing the papers / pledging and promising 21. Final adoption process and medical checkup 22. China experience 23. Travel group / Red couch photo(s) 24. Plane ride home / Family thoughts 25. Our promise, our family, we are the lucky ones Different pieces of this outline come from all over: I've signed up for the Asialifebooks.org online group, have purchased a used copy of Bath O'Malley's LifeBooks: Creating a Treasure for the Adopted Child, and have been privileged to view a few precious copies of lifebooks people have written for their children (thank you thank you thank you!). Last week, I took Ro and Ree to the store and let them pick out their own 3-ring binders that will house their initial lifebooks. (Ro chose a multicolor striped one, and Ree chose an all-pink one, if anyone's curious.) So I am ready to write and to gather pictures/documents! My goal is to knock out 2-4 spreads a week. Hey maybe double that if TubaDad isn't traveling. First two spreads/topics for this week are "Letter to child (this is the story of you...)" and "How families are formed (include kid-friendly definition of adoption)." So, I'd love to hear the wording that worked for you to: * Introduce this book to your child * Say how families are formed * Say what adoption is (in a simple, single sentence that a kiddo can understand and maybe even repeat to his/her friends) And if I figure out anything great, I'll share that in my next post. Until then, here's to some prolific writing!